Showing posts with label pondering. Show all posts
Showing posts with label pondering. Show all posts

Tuesday, March 21, 2023

Back to Basics: Your stories are all around even if you don’t recognize them

 

Your stories are everywhere, all around you, just waiting for you to put them in writing.

 

Look at your cell phone contact list, your address book, email inbox, friends on Facebook and other social media. What stories can you write about the fun you had with them? About the adventures? What skills did those people teach you?

 

Go deeper: What did you learn alongside them about failure, hard work, success, romance, illness, teamwork? What lessons did they teach you?

 

Think back: Who taught you about honesty, integrity, perseverance, kindness, compassion, generosity, faith in God? How, specifically, did those individuals shape you and encourage you to be the person you are today?

 

Stories are everywhere—not just stories. God-and-you stories.

 

 Look around your office or your house. What have you tucked into a special drawer or a safe deposit box?

 

If a tornado siren sounded, or if a smoke alarm went off, what would you grab and take to a safe place?

 

If those items could talk, what stories would they tell?

 

I think about that question a lot.

 

Someday I want to write stories based on my old blue American Tourister carry-on bag. It traveled with me for thirty years across three continents: from this planet’s most primitive places to the world’s most sophisticated cities. What stories it could tell!

 

What stories would my husband’s grandmother’s aluminum colander tell? And her ironing board? I don’t know how many years Grandma Jennings used them, but I’ve used them for more than fifty years! Five generations of our family (so far) have used those items. Imagine what stories they could tell—stories of God’s goodness to our family, generation after generation.

 

Why have you thrown out some possessions 

but kept others for many years?

 

Why could you never throw them out or give them away? 

Because they represent something important to you. 

What is that something?

 

Look around and ask yourself:

 

“If this dining room table could talk, what stories would it tell?”

 

“If my old Bible could talk, what stories would it tell?”

 

“If these boots could talk, what stories would they tell?”

 

What about a photo? A book? Washing machine? Piece of art? Jewelry? Woodworking tools? Coffee mug? Mechanical tools? Art supplies? A vase? A favorite old devotional book?

 

Many items could tell stories—stories significant to you and your family.

 

Glenda Bonin suggests we interview key people—and even ourselves.

 

“Don’t be timid about interviewing yourself and others,” Glenda writes. “A good interviewer asks questions and waits for answers. . . . Listen deeply, allowing as much time as needed for quiet moments of thought. Do not rush in with a new question until you are satisfied that the question has been fully explored. . . . These moments are often where the best family stories can be found. . . .”

 

I like Glenda’s suggestion: Interview others, yes, but also interview yourself, and “listen deeply, allowing as much time as needed. . . .”

 

You might even schedule a time to think, to ponder an item’s importance. Or maybe you could contemplate while you drive to work or mow the lawn or walk the dog.

 

What questions do you need to ask?

 

What questions do you need to ask yourself?

 

Peel back layers. 

Wait for answers. Listen for them.

 

When answers surface, write your stories—

not just stories. Write God-and-you stories.

 

Remember, while you’ve been using and enjoying those items, God has always been with you, working in you, working on your behalf.

 

You don’t need to experience news-making miracles to witness God at work. He is in your everyday comings and goings.

 

As Oswald Chambers says,

 

“We look for visions from heaven

and for earth-shaking events

to see God’s power. . . .

Yet we never realize that

all the time God is at work

in our everyday events

and in the people around us.”

 

Write your stories!

 

 

Tuesday, March 12, 2019

Tuesday Tidbit: Your need to ponder


Reading time: 48 seconds

Pondering is a must in writing a memoir.
You need to slow down,
uncover, excavate.
Till the soil and sift through it.
Unearth buried experiences.
Return to key events and relive them.
Rethink them, reevaluate them.
Make sense of them.



And most important: You need to discover what God was doing.

"Pondering is thinking, for sure, 
but it has the connotation of peaceful contemplation, 
rather than anxious conjectures. 
I want to . . . take time to reflect and ruminate over 
the experiences God has allowed me to pass through. . . . 
I don't want to simply react to or vent 
about what has been going on 
in, around, and through me. . . . 
I want to take time to thoroughly digest it all." 


"Days pass and the years vanish 
and we walk sightless among miracles. 
God, fill our eyes with seeing 
and our minds with knowing; 
let there be moments when Your Presence, 
like lightning, 
illumines the darkness in which we walk. 
Help us to see, wherever we gaze, 
that the bush burns, unconsumed. 
And we, clay touched by God, 
will reach out for holiness 
and exclaim in wonder: 'How filled with awe is this place 
and we did not know it!'" 

There you have it, your Tuesday Tidbit.

Now, go ponder!

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

Tuesday Tidbit: Where can you find your stories?


Today we’re following up on Your stories: Where do you find them?



Set aside time to think about a key item and its significance to you and your family’s history.

Ponder its importance while you drink your morning coffee, when you do your chores, and sit in the dentist’s chair, and fold laundry, and exercise.

If those items could talk, what stories would they tell?


Also check out Dr.Lori Verderame’s article about how old possessions can boost memories of Alzheimer patients.


Thursday, March 16, 2017

Your stories: Where do you find them?


Your stories are all around you, just waiting for you to put them in writing.

Look at your cell phone contact list, your address book, your Facebook friends, your email inbox, your Twitter friends—what stories can you write about some of those people?

What stories can you write about the fun you had with them? About the adventures? What did you learn alongside them about failure, hard work, success, romance, illness, teamwork?

What skills did those people teach you?

What lessons did they teach you?

Who taught you about honesty, integrity, perseverance, kindness, compassion, generosity, faith in God? How, specifically, did those individuals shape you and encourage you to be the person you are today?

Write your stories! But not just stories. God-and-you stories.

Stories are everywhere. Look around your office or your house. What have you tucked into a special drawer or a safe deposit box?

If a tornado siren sounded, or if a smoke alarm went off, what would you grab and take to a safe place?

If those items could talk, what stories would they tell?

I think about that question a lot.

Someday I want to write stories based on my old blue American Tourister carry-on bag (a gift from Schiefelbeins before Dave and I left for Africa; thanks, Rick and Marilyn!). It has traveled with me for 24 years and counting, across three continents: from this planet’s most primitive places to the world’s most sophisticated cities—and what stories it could tell! Not just stories, but God-and-me stories.

What stories would my husband’s grandmother’s aluminum colander tell? And her ironing board? I don’t know how many years Grandma Jennings used them, but I’ve used them for 50 years! Five generations of our family (so far) have used those items. Imagine what stories they could tell—stories of God’s faithfulness to our family, generation after generation.

Why have you thrown out some possessions but kept others for many years?

Why could you never throw them out or give them away? Because they represent something important to you. What is that something?

Look around and ask yourself:

“If this dining room table could talk, what stories would it tell?”

“If my old Bible could talk, what stories would it tell?”

“If these boots could talk, what stories would they tell?”

What about a photo? A book? Washing machine? Piece of art? Jewelry? Woodworking tools? Coffee mug? Mechanical tools? Art supplies? A vase? A favorite old devotional book?

Many items could tell stories—stories significant to you and your family.

Set aside time to think about a key item. Ponder its importance: while you drive to work or mow the lawn or brush your teeth or walk the dog or drive the grandkids to baseball practice.

Look at old photos connected with the item—photos of places and people.

What questions do you need to ask?

What questions do you need to ask yourself?

Peel back layers. Wait for answers. Listen for them.

When answers surface, write your storiesnot just stories. Write God-and-you stories.

Remember, while you’ve been using and enjoying those items, God has always been with you, working in you, working on your behalf.

Your stories are all around you. You don’t need to experience news-making miracles to witness God at work. He is in your everyday comings and goings.

Oswald Chambers says it this way:

“We look for visions from heaven
and for earth-shaking events
to see God’s power.
Yet we never realize that
all the time God is at work
in our everyday events….”


Write your stories!





Thursday, February 9, 2017

Pinpoint the “So what?” in your memoir


In writing your memoir, pinpoint the “So what?” of key events—the crises, victories, surprises, and discoveries.

Ponder this: Your memoir is about happenings that impacted you: you lost your job—or after overcoming obstacles, you landed the job of your dreams; your house burned down; you made the college varsity team; your child died; you survived cancer.

After you’ve written a rough draft of a vignette, ask yourself: 
  • Why was that event so important to me?
  • Why does this memory stand out when I’ve forgotten so many others?
  • How did the event change me?

In other words, So what?

Memoir involves: 
  • pondering,
  • exploring,
  • unraveling,
  • reflecting,
  • examining,
  • untangling,
  • mulling over,
  • analyzing,
  • musing,
  • sorting out.

Peel off layers one by one until you can answer these questions:

How do you see the experience now, in retrospect?

What was going on beneath the surface?

If the event had not happened, how would your values, goals, perspectives, and relationships be different?

And, if your memoir has a spiritual dimension, how was God:
  • orchestrating,
  • managing,
  • directing,
  • holding the reins,
  • choreographing,
  • and arranging the details,
  • to carry out His best plans for your life?

Connect the dots: To what new place did God lead you? How did He shake you up, change your mind, melt your heart, revise your goals, and make a new person of you?

“Many memoir writers in workshops I’ve taught,” writes Victoria Costello, “encounter trouble with the reflective voice.… If this is a stumbling block for you, here are some phrases that can help ease you into a reflective voice: 

Here are additional reflective phrases you can use:
  • I couldn't have put it into words back then, but now...
  • It would be years before I understood that...
  • I didn't understand it at the time, but...
  • When I remember those events, I...
  • If only I'd known back then that...
  • Ten years later I would ask myself...

Search your heart
for the deeper lessons
within your stories.
Only then can you pass on
those treasures
to your readers.





Tuesday, May 31, 2016

Tuesday Tidbit: What happens when you write your memoir


Here’s this week’s Tuesday Tidbit,
your 15 seconds of inspiration:


Prepare to be surprised and delighted
when you peel off layers surrounding your past experiences. 

Prepare to find God’s fingerprints all over everything.

Prepare to discover links, insights, and joys.

Prepare to unravel your life’s mysteries
(or at least some of them). 

Prepare to make better sense of your life.

Prepare to feel good about it.






Thursday, October 16, 2014

Dig it out, in pieces if you must


When you write a memoir, you record more than the details of what happened.

You peel off layers,
dig deep,
unfold,
investigate,
uncover,
excavate.
You mine gems buried in layers.
You hunt down the inner, more significant story.



When you write a memoir, after you’ve mined those hidden gems and you’re holding them in your hands, get out a magnifying glass:
examine,
analyze,
meditate,
muse,
ponder,
piece together,

As a memoirist, search for ways your experience changed you and made you who you are today.

You might find answers to questions that eluded you in the past—or maybe you’ll make peace with questions that still have no answers.

Search for lessons you learned, for patterns (positive or negative) you recognize now, looking back.

What did you need to learn the hard way?
What do you know now that you didn’t then?
How was God involved?
What wisdom did you gain from the experience?
How did the experience make you a better person?

Unraveling can be difficult. I’m writing my second memoir and recognize anew how mysterious the process can be and that this memoir stuff can be painful. We unearth things about ourselves we hadn’t realized before, and the discoveries can mature us and strengthen our faith for all that comes our way in the future.

I appreciate a quote in Kathy Pooler’s recent blog post:

“As a writer,
I dig to get to the meat of the troubling,
sensitive issues.
I often find it’s a tough nut to crack,
so I take out my nut cracking tools.
I apply pressure
and squeeze to pop open the topic.
I probe to separate kernels of truth
from their protective shells.
Sometimes I lift the fruit whole
and intact from its hiding place,
but more often I dig it out in pieces.”

What are your nut-cracking tools?

What pressure can you apply to extract those kernels of truth?

What will you do to pop open your story?

Squeeze, probe, and dig it out,
in pieces if you must,
but dig it out!





Thursday, May 29, 2014

So what?


In writing your memoir, pinpoint the “So what?” of each vignette you write.

Ponder this: Your memoir is about events that impacted you: you lost your job—or landed the job of your dreams; your house burned down; you made the college varsity team; your child died; you survived cancer.

After you’ve written a rough draft of a vignette, ask yourself:

  • Why was that event so important to me?
  • Why does this memory stand out when I’ve forgotten so many others?
  • What is the significance of that experience?

In other words, So what?


pondering,
exploring,
unraveling,
reflecting,
examining,
untangling,
mulling over,
analyzing,
musing,
sorting out.

Peel off layers one by one until you can answer these questions:

How do you see the experience now, in retrospect?

What was going on beneath the surface?

How did it change your life?

And, if your memoir has a spiritual dimension, how was God:

orchestrating,

managing,

directing,

holding the reins,

choreographing,

and arranging the details,

to carry out His best plans for your life?

Connect the dots: To what new place did God lead you? How did He shake you up, change your mind, melt your heart, revise your goals, and make a new person of you?

“Many memoir writers in workshops I’ve taught,” writes Victoria Costello, “encounter trouble with the reflective voice.… If this is a stumbling block for you, here are some phrases that can help ease you into a reflective voice:

  • There must have been…
  • Only later did I realize…
  • There was no way to know then…
  • The way I see it now…
  • It has taken me 10, 20, 30 years to understand that…”

Search your heart
for the deeper lessons
within your stories.
Only then can you pass on
those deeper lessons
to your readers.